In all seriousness I made this because it’s one of my pet peeves for guys to assume I’m dressing up/wearing makeup for THEM, but then after I made this, I’m like holy shit I made that hair dryer fuck that shoe. So then I had two reasons to put it on tumblr.
It pisses me off immmmmensely when coworkers (or anyone for that matter) assume I have a “hot date” or “trying to impress someone” based on what I’m wearing and/or how much cleavage I’m showing. No you assholes. I wear skirts and dresses and makeup and high heels because THAT’S WHAT I LOVE. I’ve been dressing like this as far back as I can remember, before I met pretty much anyone who’s in my life right now, I’m not just starting now because I’m trying to impress someone.
This is really important. We’ve all seen hundreds of Drug PSAs… how many times have we seen this?
Well played. I did a genuine double take.
A Glasgow nightclub has installed a two-way mirror which allows male revellers in private booths to spy on unsuspecting women as they visit the toilet! With no notification or signage anywhere in the venue many female club goers have been left feeling embarrassed and used. Although they do briefly show the mirrors in a promo video, the club has been quickly deleting comments and posts on their social media from club goers trying to alert others to the situation. This is pretty much illegal and hugley violates privacy. Thank you The Shimmy Club for giving us a shiny, new, creative and cool take on objectification.
article herei’m never leaving my house again, this world is just too fucked up.
WHAT!?
gross gross gross gross gross
Good morning disgusting.
Remember ladies:
- “No space, leave the place” (fingernail test)
- A two way mirror must be set INTO the wall, not placed on top of it.
- If you rap/knock against the mirror, one installed onto a wall (a normal mirror) will make a dull sound, because there’s something behind it. A two-way will have more reverberation.
- Use the flashlight on your phone to shine on the mirror, if it’s a two-way, you’ll be able to see into the other room.
- You can also shield your eyes and see in if you lean up against the glass.
- The room being viewed will have to be brightly lit (10x brighter than the room looking in), so if you’re in a typical dimly lit club bathroom, you’re ok.
boosting the fuck out of this
They have this in Continental Midtown in Philly, it’s fucking creepy and not cool at all
the most obvious solution i can think of is to break that motherfucker. what are they going to do? sue you for breaking something they shouldnt have had?
“what are they going to do? sue you for breaking something they shouldnt have had?”
Tumbling over the past year and a half has made me see the problems of gender roles that exist in media, but sometimes it gets to the point where I over analyze every single piece of television or film that I come across. (However this in no way means that I think feminist media criticism is wrong, or should be avoided!) Mostly I just over think everything.
This is awesome!
[HUUUUGE TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE THREATS]
Last Thursday, I went on FX’s Totally Biased with W. Kamau Bell and tried to explain rape culture in a few 15-second sound bytes (fun stuffâif you’ve never tried it, RUN-DON’T-WALK).I was in a debate with comedy vet Jim Norton (who’s been thoughtful and fair throughout this whole thing, so don’t be mean to him), who essentially took the stance that comedy requires absolute freedom in order to function. Comedians joke about difficult issues because it’s a “release of tension” for people uncomfortable with those issues. It’s “catharsis.” No subject should ever be “off limits” and comedians shouldn’t be “silenced.” And anyway, language doesn’t affect culture, so how could rape jokes have an effect on actual rape? Rape is illegal! Everyone hates rape!
Well, that’s the fundamental disconnect between us. I believe that the way we speak about things and the type of media we consume profoundly influences how we think about the world.
Let me be clear: I don’t believe that previously non-raping audience members are going to take to the streets in a rape mob after hearing one rape joke. That’s an absurd and insulting mischaracterization. But I do believe that comedy’s current permissiveness around cavalier, cruel,victim-targeting rape jokes contributes to (that’s contributes—not causes) a culture of young men who don’t understand what it means to take this stuff seriously.
And how did they try and prove me wrong? How did they try to demonstrate that comedy, in general, doesn’t have issues with women? By threatening to rape and kill me, telling me I’m just bitter because I’m too fat to get raped, and suggesting that the debate would have been better if it had just been Jim raping me.
This isn’t just coming from anonymous trolls. Local comics — whom I knowand work with — have told me to shut the fuck up. One hopes I’ll fall down a flight of stairs. (He later apologized—to my boyfriend, not me.)
The comments below and the video above (filmed and edited by Ahamefule J. Oluo) are only a tiny fraction of what I’ve been wading through for the past four days. A suffocating deluge of violent misogyny is how American comedy fans react to a woman suggesting that comedy might have a misogyny problem.
If anyone’s still worried about comedians being “silenced”: This is what silencing looks like. Sorry, boys, but it’s not going to work.
I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues.
Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods.
People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself.
Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.
If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.
Angelina Jolie had a double mastectomy, in case you hadn’t heard. How dare she remove those ticking time bombs from her chest, amiright? Like, hasn’t she learned by now that her body is public domain and we all get to vote on what she does with it? Sheesh, how selfish can ya get.
Amanda Roller was a call center employee in Kansas. After Amanda became pregnant she started experiencing morning sickness. Amanda’s supervisor repeatedly refused her requests to go the bathroom and instead told her that she would get Amanda a larger trash can so that she could vomit at her desk. Amanda asked again, and her supervisor again denied her request, saying, “We don’t pay you to pee.” Amanda was then demoted and eventually fired.
Speaker at the January 5, 2012 Occupy Steubenville anti-rape rally. Read the full story at MotherJones.com: http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2013/05/anonymous-rape-steubenville-rehtaeh-parsons-oprollredroll-opjustice4rehtaeh
I AM SO FUCKING SICK OF SEEING THESE KINDS OF IMAGES AND COMMENTS.
I’m actually disgusted. This photo was posted on see more’s facebook page. Now, I don’t remember liking this page, but occasionally it pops up on my newsfeed. Usually its generic “share this guy” posts, but this one caught my attention because of the picture.
I wish I could say that the argument on the left (caused by my outraged comment) is where all the stupidty ends. But it really isn’t, The other comments are DISGUSTING. I actually feel sick to my stomach right now because of them.
HERE ARE SOME PRIME EXAMPLES OF THE KINDS OF PEOPLE THAT ARE COMMENTING ON THIS:
THIS IS WHY FEMINISM IS NEEDED. THIS IS WHY RAPECULTURE IS SICKENING. THIS IS WHY GROWING UP IN A WORLD FULL OF OVER SEXUALISED WOMEN AND PATRIORICHAL VALUES IS FUCKING BULLSHIT.
“hahah shes fat she should be glad for the rape!!!” NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. Seriously these VILE people are what I cannot stand most about the world. I am so angry right now I can’t.
- Isaac Okesene: https://www.facebook.com/isaac.okesene
- Federico Di Luzio: https://www.facebook.com/federico.diluzio
- Holly M Landry: https://www.facebook.com/LegendaryEpicness
- Ashley Bender: https://www.facebook.com/Jacksgurl87
- Nathan Alsleben: https://www.facebook.com/insaneweasels
- Chelly Cross: https://www.facebook.com/chelly.cross
- Jean-Mathieu Emond: https://www.facebook.com/BoobaJm
I need to add that this is why INTERSECTIONAL feminism is needed, because this wasn’t just a joke about rape (which is awful enough), it was a joke about fat woman, a fat black woman, which one of the commenters had to make note of. There is a special type of stigma for fat Black women, which is a big part of where this type of vitriol is coming from.
Feminism is not enough if it does not address fat-shaming/fatphobia and racialized misogyny.
PS all the people thinking this shit is funny can go fuck themselves.
To all those people who want to be face characters in Disney. I want you guys to realize that even though they have a great job, and probably the funnest job, they also have one of the hardest jobs.
Especially the princesses, and Ariel. Ariel used to have stalkers, and people…
To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.
I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?
So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-
6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
Rapists do.
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.
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I’ve been wearing more makeup lately than I used to, and inevitably, I more often get to hear:
“Oh, you don’t need makeup. You’re beautiful without it!”
And I talk a lot of beauty and loving myself just how I am. Some people feel these two things are hypocritical, to love yourself and wear makeup. And okay, yes, let’s acknowledge that there are women who feel pressured to wear it despite not wanting to. This happens. But a lot of the time, women wear makeup for themselves. It’s fun! It’s expressive. It’s artistic. It’s not “necessary,” but neither is pizza.
I’m not trying to cover anything up the same way an artist isn’t putting paint on a canvas for the sake of covering the canvas.
(Edit: Also, I’m getting calls for people wanting t-shirts of this. If you feel the same, let me know. I would gladly print some of these.)
There’s too much good stuff on Tumblr tonight!
(and yes, Megan! Make shirts!)
Not to mention how fucked up it is that it’s assumed certain people “need” makeup, while some don’t because they already fit the traditional beauty standard.
